New mum's fury at mother-in-law who sneaks into the ward and holds baby before she can

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There is a huge amount of importance put on that first cuddle you have with your newborn baby .

And with good reason too. Not only is it incredibly bonding and special BUT you've just pushed a small human out of your nether-regions.

You DESERVE that first cuddle.

So imagine the anger and sadness you'd feel knowing someone sneaked into the ward while you recovered from your emergency c-section and held your newborn before you did.

Now imagine that person was not a nurse, nor your partner but...your mother-in-law.

This is exactly what happened to one mum. And she's really not happy about it.

She'd had a difficult labour and her husband said he needed support

"I had my daughter six weeks ago," she explains on Mumsnet .

"It was a traumatic birth and ended in emergency section. As they took me into theatre husband called his mum as he was so shook up and just wanted some support.

"She is a doctor and works in the same trust as I was delivering in, although she doesn't work in the women's hospital."

So far, fair enough.

It's a roller-coaster witnessing your partner have to suddenly be put under anaesthetic for an emergency c-section and it's understandable the woman's husband needed some support.

Obstetrician and nurse during a caesarean birth.
She was still being operated on when her mother-in-law sneaked in

"Anyway," she continues, "she was able to obtain access to the recovery area with her works access card, and just let herself in without permission."

It gets worse, too.

"I wasn't asked if it was okay if she could be there, and because I was being stitched up on theatre still, she held my daughter before I even got to.

"I'm so angry and upset about this.

"Prior to going into labour, I'd discussed with my husband that I didn't want anyone visiting for at least a day or so, let alone have my mother-in-law there before I've even held my own child. "

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The mum's anger isn't just with her husband - but with the midwives too.


To add to the mum's sadness, "A doctor came and spoke to me whilst I was in recovery and mentioned some very personal information about me, medically, which she then overheard too.

"I'm actually in tears this morning thinking about it all again and so angry and upset still."

It's a topic which was bound to strike a chord with many a mum, and it did.

"That sounds awful, and not one thing you have mentioned is right," agreed one. "That sounds awful, and not one thing you have mentioned is right."

You're incredibly vulnerable and emotional in those first few weeks

She also urged her to talk to her husband.

Another mum fumed, "I'm so sorry. What a w****r that woman is.

"You are completely justified in feeling violated and angry. You're also justified in feeling unsupported and let down by your husband."

These sentiments were largely echoed by all the other outraged mums participating.

Although one added, "Your mother-in-law only did what her son asked her to. As a parent it seems natural she would support her child."

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Still, you're in an incredibly vulnerable and hormonal position in those moments, days and weeks following childbirth.

And as a doctor and mum herself, her mother-in-law should have been more aware of that.

Scott Blair - UK News
By Scott Blair - UK News 11/10/2017 12:52:00